Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Just Married...............

Just a while ago while waiting outside a exam centre for my husband to return from his exam, a thought flashed this crazy lazy mind to share about how it feels to be “Just Married”.....Being married for 2 months now, I think at times....should I or do I really feel “Just Married”....

What’s this “Just Married” feeling...why am I sitting and writing about it...it is beautiful...what sort of feeling is it...Crazy mind felt it’s magical...why???

There have been times when I have wondered about the behaviors or the just married couples....felt it was filmy or even kind of weird... As it is true that you have to me in a customer’s shoe to understand the issue rightly...so is the case with this magical feeling...You have to be just married to enjoy the feelings of being “Just married”...

Now I am not sure how long is this period of “Just” married is valid.....but from the experience so far....I could say for certain that....As long as there is a beautiful romantic life flowing between you and your spouse, I think this period..”just” would flow forever...

Crazy lazy mind has felt shy many times while experiencing such feelings..however they have been so magical and beautiful that has made me come forward and share the experience........

What’s this “just married” feeling? May be this is what my friends used to describe to me as a “Spark” that flashes in a lover’s mind when he or she sees or even thinks about his or her life partner.....mine being arranged marriage I wondered many times...if this so called would get ignited just like that just after your marriage.....

and what now after marriage.....yesssssss..tha crazy lazy minds accepts the sparkology and whole heartedly describes self as a “Magical feeling that ignites your mind suddenly making your heart beat faster whenever you think or see or just when your life partner is beside you”....

why magical...as it is sudden and beautiful that one get to experience just after marriage....So here are some of crazy lazy mind’s “Just Married” feelings.......

First and formost...whenever your spouse is beside either talking to somebody or traveling with you....or even standing at a distance closer to you and doing something....your eyes crave to catch a full sight of your spouse or grab his/her attention towards self...how much ever you try to control ..the eyes would still flow into the direction where your spouse is ...and for sure with increased heart rate.....

Next when your spouse is out for work during the time of arrival..no matter what you are doing....or engaged with...be it watching even your favorite start on TV or talking to mom/very close pal over phone...your legs automatically tens to get pulled towards balcony and start waiting for his arrival......this was very filmy for crazy lazy mind before wedding but now after getting the mrs crown and experiencing such feelings in real it’s just getting crazier and crazier.......Just one minute beyond the expected time of arrival if your eyes fail to catch sight of his arrival...it’s time for the hands and fingers to swiftly pick up the phone and dial in the number to see where he is....

If you observe even deeper...during this whole waiting process...you are already waiting 10 mins before the expected time of arrival and meanwhile the way your eyes bounce back and forth between the road and the clock...and the way your mind gets irritated to hear any ring at your landline.....the whole feeling is simply awesome....lucky me to experience it and at the same time sorry to all my well wishers whose calls at times have driven me crazy...when they arrive just right at the time I used to wait for my husband to return home ;-)....

Next coming to the most important aspect...ie caring for each other.......uffff,,,,crazy mind wanted to cook real good food every day with varieties......does not matter you know cooking already or not....The “Just Married” feeling will automatically help you master the culinary art in no time.....

Now in case of Crazy lazy mind I was even luckier to have a friend by name joy ...who always spreads joy around everybody and me...and this time the joy came in disguise of a “Cookbook” ....What a wedding gift!!...thank you joy!! for it not only helped me in cooking some of my husband’s favorite recipes, also eased and increased the joy of cooking it me....

Firstly the “Just married” feeling itself is a great source of energy booster and secondly the small small compliments or the appreciations (for the food you cook) that you receive from your spouse just after you are married keeps you highly charged and motivated to cook more and more good food for your love....

not to be surprised...the “Just married” feeling does not spare your spouse with just small compliments or appreciations.....instead surprises you with special gifts from your spouse in return......

Crazy lazy mind went crazier stacking up it’s favorite chocolates everyday as return gifts........

Not to leave your stomach and taste buds....crazy lazy mind has some words of praise of them as well...who really show good patience “just after you are married” to wait calmly until your spouse returns from work and then get a taste of the food.....

It is magical for each one of us to not to feel hungry or even forget about hunger and wait no matter how long for you spouse to return from any work, join and then dine together....

"Just married? feeling also teaches each one some amount of discipline.....Although I was never trained under any hotel management programs, every time I server food to my husband crazy lazy mind used to try and arrange the dishes prior in a neat manner at the dining table well before time and try to make a good presentation........

As well you are very keen in keeping the ambience at home very clean and attractive just after your wedding life has started and thereafter wait for compliments from your spouse.

Moving on, before wedding crazy lazy mind used to complain about talking longer hours over the phone and also wonder what’s there to really talk to each other every day...but now.....as a “Just married” couple....craves to hear/update her husband every one hour over phone...isn’t this magical?????

Feeling little shy to express the next one but however can’t afford to miss the most significant “just married” couple feeling....Wherever you go wither by walk or travel in a vehicle.....as a “Just married” couple you would always wish to hold hands or lean on each other’s shoulder..that’s so beautiful and brings a truly bonded feeling amidst the couple.....so so...even when I lean on my husband’s shoulder during any travel the feeling that I get when he pats on my head simply makes crazy lazy mind jump even crazier.......

Lastly....for the “feminine attitude”....being “just married” feeling demands you to look or ask for compliments every time you dress up and also after your spouse tastes any food cooked by you...be it just a cup of coffee or even when you dress up to go out for a casual walk....see how crazily this “Just married” feeling could make one behave.......

Crazy lazy mind is really surprised for it is in the middle of such vibrant experience rendered by the “just married” shockwave........

What a feeling...feeli it and live each moment sharing loads and loads of happiness with each other....

Hope this crazy lazy mind has not bored you with such a long post...and most would agree to what I have experienced and shared so far.....if not at least I believe this serves as a very good reference for all the “just married” man as in give a hand in understanding what kind of “just married” feelings their spouse could experience and most importantly what they really would expect out of this “Just married” syndrome!!

Sure married life is a beautiful phase in each ones life!!

Wishing each one stumbling on this post a great and happy married life!!

Signing off for now............

Mrs.Akshatha Kamath (Just 2 months old ;-))

12 comments:

Maya said...

very nice post Aks... I am so happy to see that u have settled so well in ur new life...
The feeling is truly magical.. when u have a caring and loving partner..
and i defi agree with ur "sparkology" concept..
I used to laugh when ppl said of"bells ringing inside the head" when u meet the special one.. I ever felt it when i first met my darling... but yes... i did feel the bells ring and the sparks fly when i saw him on the day of my wedding in the wedding hall.. On the day of the wedding.. i cld see no one around but jus him...

Never let the magic die Akshata... Its all in our hands to ignite the sparks and keep it alive..
Cheers to married life
Maya

Akshatha said...

Cheers maya..thanks for your wishes and sharing about your sparking moment....nice to know about such magical moments......

cheers always,
aks

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Archana said...

Very well written post akshatha.. Though I am not fond of reading, your blog made me read it throughout..:) :) I have always enjoyed reading your blogs.... And talking abt the "just married" syndrome, I agree to each and every feeling one goes tru after being into a relation!!! It's just magical....!!! Very happy seeing such a change in you :) God bless both you and Vikram bavaji :) :)

Div said...

Wonderful post - keep the spark going :-)

Akshatha said...

Thank you Div sir..thank you archanu...

Vishwas said...

:):) nice one akshatha akka:)
very happy for you:)
enjoy the days..love and be loved:)

Arjun said...

supppppper...very nice to know your experiences.......wish you more happiness and sweet moments to come...ha ha ha this reminds me of the song ..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYd7NfE0IdE

very happy for you..

Chinni said...

hey Akshata.. such cute post. While I was reading I was imagining you cooking, waiting for your hubby, you blushing...just loved it... thanks for sharing your experience;-))
Love you. Have a great life. Enjoy each moment. Marriage is first step for evolving ourself. After marriage we would have been such a different person, its amazing to know how we grow ourselves in relation.

CreativeMind said...

Hey Dude...Nice to see your blog...its always a pleasure to read your blogs and good to see you settled...send me your number on my gmail ID..would love to talk to you soon.

ganga said...

Wow Akshu very nice blog...I really enjoyed it reading.......hope you are enjoying your "Just Married" life...:-)

Akshatha said...

thx..chinni..ganga...creative mind...life after wedding for sure is very different and interesting...cheers